How to balance compassion and accountability for behavior change

How to balance compassion and accountability for behavior change

“How do you balance compassion and accountability?” Kendra Kinnison, the Coach.me CEO asked me this question after my commencement talk to the latest Coach.me habit certification class in February. After answering, I thought more deeply about how you need both...

Want to live your best life? Take time to exercise, eat well, and sleep

Want to live your best life? Take time to exercise, eat well, and sleep

“Adopt good habits for exercising, eating and sleeping.” These eight words summarize how to take care of yourself, especially your mental and physical health. Granted, it’s not always clear what constitutes the best exercise, the healthiest diet, and the ideal amount...

Why mutuality matters more than reciprocity in a human-centered world

Why mutuality matters more than reciprocity in a human-centered world

“Reciprocation – You, then me, then you, then me…  Be the first to give: Service Information Concessions  From the “Principles of Ethical Influence,” a Pocket Guide by Dr. Robert Cialdini This pocket guide has maintained a place of honor in my wallet for years. The...

Want to signal what’s important to you? Wear your values on your chest!

Want to signal what’s important to you? Wear your values on your chest!

“Celebrating since 1770” – the tagline for the College of Charleston’s recent birthday party. This tagline, which adorned banners, T-shirts and other memorabilia, was a clever way to deal with the College’s delayed birthday. Back in 2020 before the Covid shutdown, the...

How to get the most out of your accountability partner calls

How to get the most out of your accountability partner calls

Want more accountability in your life, especially to reach your goals? Work with an accountability partner. My accountability partnership began by default, not design, back in 2007. Now almost 16 years later, my accountability partner, Diana Del Bel Belluz, and I...